Self-Care Questions for Moms
Women are born nurturers, it’s in our genes, so carving out some solo time can be a challenge. But finding time for self-care is important for a mom’s health and her family’s well being. Whether your idea of self-care is sneaking some candy in the closet, finishing a book, or buying fancy soap, allow yourself to indulge a bit. The pressure to care for other family members can seem overwhelming if you are not feeling your best. Remember that caring for yourself is another way of making sure your family is cared for too. You can give them your best when you feel your best.
Moms may joke about sleep being a forgotten luxury of the past, but sleep truly is important. Babies will cry, and kids will have nightmares, so make sure you are allowing for enough shut eye time. Every person is different, so figure out what your body needs. I do fine going to bed around midnight, but I also take a nap in the afternoon with my kids. Some of my friends are asleep before 10:00pm. Self-care also includes proper eating habits. Are you eating healthy food? Are you maintaining a good caloric and vitamin intake? Along with your diet, do you exercise? Exercise includes everything from playing chase with your kids to hitting the gym. Ask yourself what other improvements will ensure your physical health.
Everyone has bad days. They’re part of life. But if you feel like you are stuck in a weird funk your body is telling you that something needs to change. Analyze what you’ve been thinking about lately. Are you reminiscing on friendships? Are you daydreaming about taking a cruise with your spouse? (I am.) If you can pinpoint what’s been on your mind, then you have a big clue for how to spend your self-care time!
For example: If you are missing time with the girls, make a point to call them on the phone, or schedule a trip for frozen yogurt. Arrange for a night at the movies with the girls, or host a pajama party at your house after the kids go to bed.
Another example: If you need some bonding time with your hubby, talk to him. Discuss how to find more time for each other. Maybe that means the TV turns off an hour before bedtime so you can cuddle. Maybe that means you hire a babysitter for a few hours while you hit the town. Maybe you Face Time during lunch break occasionally. Couples need these bonding conversations to maintain a strong connection. Talk about hopes and dreams, not just dirty diapers. Also, if you had a bad day, let your husband comfort you. Tell him about your new self-care goals, and inquire whether he has noticed something that could help.
Balancing your self-care and the nurturing of your family is possible. I hope these questions help you find some solutions for your life. If so, write down your answer and set some goals. Leave a comment about what you will be working on. Good luck!