Marriage is awesome! At least it’s supposed to be amazing and comforting and confidence-building and supportive and sexy and rewarding and challenging and (insert more positive adjectives here). Sometimes relationships become strained, and sometimes marriage is frustrating. Spouses get annoyed with each other and arguments happen too frequently. Unhealthy patterns can unravel a marriage, so […]
I love watching the Sketch Comedy show “Studio C.” If you haven’t already found their amazingness on YouTube, visit their channel. Not only are the funny, but their content is always family friendly. Love, love, love Studio C! Inspired by one of their Christmas sketches about Santa Claus basing gifts on the 5 Love Languages, I […]
Earlier this year I gave a presentation to a group of teenagers. After deliberating the best way to teach them how to communicate, I decided to take an alternate route by teaching them how to listen. After all, if you listen ineffectively, you’ll communicate ineffectively. The quote “we have two ears and one mouth for […]
Looking for a gift to please an entire family this Christmas? Maybe your brother’s family, or your favorite co-worker’s family? Or for your own family? I’d like to share three amazing gift ideas for a family dear to your heart. These ideas come from UnCommonGoods, and they are uniquely special items. If you haven’t heard […]
Blame is “deceitfully liberating.” “I’m done apologizing.” “She needs to get over herself and apologize to me.” “He needs to stop this foolishness and forgive everyone.” “The world doesn’t revolve around her. She needs to get over it.” “I’ve already apologized; I’m not going to do it again.” Aww, the blame game. Sound familiar? I’ve […]
Realizing that you are selfish is hard to swallow. It hurts. And you feel crummy. And you want to run away from the guilt by placing the blame on someone else. At least, that’s what I was doing. Yesterday I had a phone conversation with my Mom. She was catching me up on the […]
I often joke that I didn’t put much stock in pre-marital counseling until I became a licensed counselor that works with couples and families. Many times, the issue a couple struggles with in their marriage has been around since their dating days. I have often wondered what would be different if they had overcome those […]
I have had a few counseling appointment requests lately about blended families. It can be a challenge to merge different families together, but I appreciate the simple message of this video. “Love is the key.”
I read a fantastic article about marriage expectations lately. You can see it here. In the article, the author describes the importance of understanding how your expectations affect your perception of the relationship. I’ve pondered his words frequently since then, and I’ve reflected on the spouses I’ve helped in couples counseling sessions. He describes “unmet […]
I recently saw an article from the Washington Post entitled, “Why having children is bad for your marriage” which was authored by psychology professor Matthew D. Johnson. Curiously, I read through the author’s viewpoints, and I couldn’t help but feel sorry for his findings. As a counselor that helps couples successfully navigate marital ups and downs, […]
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